So you two had sex. It was okay sex. But now he/she is acting like he/she is always busy or just don’t have enough time for anything. She said she was in the library studying, but you walked around the entire library slowly and saw no glimpse of her. Every time you call him, he sends you a text back saying “Ima call you back later- at the gym.”
Now you’re a little sad. You walk a different way to class so you won’t have to run into them. You ask yourself: What has happened?
What’s happened is something a lot of people experience.
There was some type of miscommunication, the person in question just doesn’t want to talk to you anymore, or they have something else going on now (like a boyfriend or girlfriend).
Not that you should just accept the insult, because it hurts, but accept that it happens, especially among college-age people.
I am definitely not here to tell you to avoid sex because if you want to do it, you will. Nor am I here to beat you over the head with “safe sex” talk, which you have probably heard a thousand times. I am just here to tell you to make sure you thoroughly communicate with the person with whom you are sharing your body and be careful with your feelings and the way you trust others with them.
Most college students think casual sex is what college is all about—a life without commitments, but if that’s not what you want, let it be known. It might sound corny, but you should definitely talk with your partner about what you want to happen after you have sex.
Make sure you know what you are getting yourself into. If you plan on having casual sex with someone, be sure that you are ready to handle the “casual” relationship that comes along with it.
If you are looking to further your casual relationship, then let that be apparent so you and your partner are both on the same page. There’s nothing worse than thinking the next day that you two are boyfriend and girlfriend, and your partner thinking you two are friend and friend.
No matter your gender, you have feelings and they can be hurt. Unless you are truly okay with casual sex, sex is never something to be taken lightly. It’s fun but it can also be very hurtful.
Before it happens, make sure that the person you take that step with is someone who wants the same things you want. That way, you won’t be feeling lost when miscommunication happens.
Bottom line is, no matter how much a person works, or how many games or classes they have that week, if you’re willing to share that part of yourself with someone, they should be willing to give you a little of their time to talk before sex happens if they’re worth having you.